We get attached to people, places and things.
As we move through our life, we create energetic connections to the world around us.
Sometimes these connections are healthy and good. They allow us to bond to individuals and create good relationships with our places of employment, our community, our practices, and other areas of our lives that we are committed to. These kinds of cords allow for a continued exchange of life force that feeds the relationship.
Sometimes these energetic connections become unhealthy and they work against our well being. A romantic relationship or friendship might begin to carry anger or sadness, an employer may begin to treat us unfairly, a community may hurt us, or a practice might become more of an addiction rather than a tool for balance, rhythm, or restoration.
Having an energetic connection that feeds what is unhealthy is like keeping a dead or dying part of a plant connected to what is still vibrant and living. Cutting unhealthy cords to people, places and things allows for vitality to go to the places that are most beneficial. Like pruning a plant, in cord cutting we remove the places that are dead, dying, or sick. This kind of energetic pruning creates shifts in our ordinary reality. Problems may become solved more easily, behaviors can shift, and relationships that need to evolve or end entirely are possible results from cord cutting.
Sometimes cord cutting helps something that has come to completion to fully end. Perhaps we have moved on from a job or we have broken up with a friend or lover. Maybe we have moved from one location to a new one or perhaps we are letting go of a bad habit. In this instance, we want to cut cords that might still be feeding that past relationship so that we have all of our energy going towards what we want to support and be in connection with.
In the instances where we do not necessarily want to end or extricate ourselves from a circumstance or situation, removing the unhealthy cords gives our relationship and commitment to something the best chance it has to be as healthy and vibrant as it can be. It allows us to show up for our relationship as the best version of ourselves without the energy of whatever is not a match for flourishment.
In the instances where we want something that is coming to or has come to completion to fully complete, cord cutting is the energetic equivalent of taking your name off the utilities; cleaning out your desk at a former workplace, or asking for your sweatshirt back from a former partner. It’s the final housekeeping detail that allows for there to no longer be any engagement or interaction with what you are moving away from.
Let’s talk a little bit about the energy that makes up the cord(s) we are removing.
Both our own energy and the energy of whatever we are corded into make up the cord. There can also be energies entangled in these cords that are not a direct participant in the relationship, but they do affect the relationship indirectly. For example: a cord between you and a job will have your own energy and quite possibly one or more of the following - the energy of your boss, the energy of the workplace, the energy of the field you work within, and the energy of what you believe about work and financial stability. You can let your mind wander and find many other energies that may make up that cord as well.
It’s important to understand that when we are cutting cords, we are only working with our own energy intentionally. All other energies involved are to simply be released. How other energy is managed is up to whomever or whatever that energy belongs to. We can ask that the energetic realms tend to the energies that are being released in a good way so that it can be retrieved by whomever it belongs to. It’s important not to ask for anything on behalf of someone or something else without permission.
When cutting a cord, it’s a good idea to ask that our energy that was feeding that cord be removed and cleared of any sickness and returned to us. In this way, we are not letting our energy simply go away or be returned to us still vibrating with the energy of the unhealthy connection. We are retrieving it and restoring it. It is in this space that we can ask that the energy in the cord that does not belong to us be handled in a good way and returned to who it belongs to.
Sometimes this process can be thorough and complete in one sitting. Some relationships may require a repeat of this ceremony before we feel like the energetic attachments are thoroughly gone. If this ceremony does not feel like enough, there may be stronger attachments or other connections that need to be looked at. I see the kinds of circumstances where we get stuck in our own energy maintenance much like I understand how a surgeon cannot do surgery on himself. Just because a surgeon knows how to do surgery, doesn’t mean he can tend to himself in the same way he can tend to another person.
Seeking out the care of an energy medicine practitioner is a good way to ensure that attachments you wish to clear are done so effectively. An experienced and well trained energy medicine practitioner will be able to see what you cannot see and will be able to navigate and untangle energy that has come together in a more complicated or involved way.